Long Time No Read!

The popular blog Celibacy is the New Black is becoming a book! In the book I take blog posts that address disassociating negative connections we have to sex as adults and tie in how misalignment and impatience can lead to series of unhealthy sexual relationships. Sex has haphazardly been spoon fed to women over time as taboo, mainly for procreation and generally for men’s pleasure. Which is why over the past few decades we’ve seen an explosion of women taking control of their sexuality and sometimes at their own detriment by choosing the wrong intimate partners. Whatever the reasons have been—they’re yours and yours alone. Maybe it's time to delete those dating apps, block whatsaname and nem’s phone numbers, and stop shooting your shot in those DMs cause it’s about to get real. Everyone may not think they're ready for celibacy, but if you’re reading this then, perhaps the path you're on has led you to celibacy. 

Welcome! Despite what you might be thinking it really will be an eye opening and beautiful journey. May you find inspiration, healing and the opportunity to look at yourself and begin the process of cultivating and becoming a better version yourself. The world is going to taut sex at the forefront of everything around us without explaining the power it holds, here and now is the time to learn, know, grow and honor yourself!

I'm giving up...Sex, that is!

I became celibate because I don’t appreciate sex outside of a committed monogamous relationship. I remember thinking I’m just going to give up sex because no one deserves me. No one is worthy of my intimacy, I had been hurt and it was of my own design that I’d gotten to this point—I trusted him, I trusted him. After all I thought he was in love with me, I mean—I was in love with him...but deceit was at the center of our “relationship”. Come to think of it, our “relationship” had no actual foundation I had fooled myself to believe it was real. His lies had to taste real good rolling off those lips. I remember feeling so hurt and so naive when it ended. 

WTF, how did I get here? I convinced myself that the only way for me to feel better was to stop interacting with men all together. I told God I wasn’t going to do this again, I wasn’t in a vulnerable place I was in a place where I didn’t trust men anymore. After this relationship had scarred me I decided that I should  just be celibate because there’s enough women to go around out here for these men to survive without me in the mix. I’ll just concentrate on God and do some self work and all will be fine.