With so many people jumping from relationship to relationship—it’s a form of self preservation when you completely remove sex from the equation. You know that when you have sex with a person your souls are spiritually tied together, right? YESSS!!! That is what is called a soul-tie; the literal act of becoming one with another person and your souls connecting.

“it’s a form of self preservation when you completely remove sex from the equation. ”

“In a healthy relationship, sexual intercourse is used to unify two people in a way that is nurturing and empowering. It is the manner in which a couple shows their love and commitment to one another. However, in a volatile, hostile or unhealthy relationship like mine, sex can tie your soul to someone who is disempowering and damaged.” - Jazz Keyes Excerpt from Jet 2016

Have you ever noticed that when you get into a new relationship with another person, it’s sometimes hard to explain why you feel drained when you deal with them? Do you ever wonder why you can’t truly connect, or maybe you’ve already connected through sex but nowhere else in your relationship. This is the most accurate part about a soul-tie—when you connect with a person you are not aligned with you exchange energies [baggage, previous traumas, other sexual partners] and the energy stays with you either making you strong or draining you. Perhaps the problem is you or maybe it’s the other person. The only thing that is true and constant is that if neither of you have done the required work that is necessary before getting into a new relationship there is greater possibility your souls are still tied to past relationships.

In order to move forward and prepare for a future with a new mate you have to properly heal and disconnect yourself from your past. Sometimes we like to try to hold on to old stuff—memories, emails, pictures, videos, gifts, etc., but these are some of the very things that keep us connected not just mentally but emotionally, spiritually, and physically. The feeling of not connecting with your significant other because they have not allowed themselves to break the bonds from their past loves or heal their brokenness can be completely damaging in a new relationship. I once thought I’d found the love of my life...but what I learned is when it came to true intimacy my partner, my mate...significant other, he was totally incapable of connecting with me on a soul level, because he was soul-tied to someone else.

If you are one of the [unlucky] folks that happen to be dating in today’s climate, it can be considered a hardship when you bring up the fact that you’re NOT having sex. Sometimes people who aren’t on the same type of journey may not hold the same respect for a person who is on the path to self healing, deep introspection, and evolvement. It’s so important that moving forward if/when you begin dating again you listen closely to that little voice in your head telling you to chill out, that’s the voice of discernment. You need to be able learn to be accountable for your own actions and to hold yourself to a higher standard. You shouldn’t put yourself in situations where you can trip yourself up for a temporary fix, especially after you’ve started healing. You need to have discipline—the discernment is for the other person and the discipline is for you!